Forgiveness has been one of the most challenging things for me to embrace. I have always differentiated between a lack of forgiveness and holding grudges, but now I see they are one and the same. Holding a grudge is an active way of directing negative energy, while an attitude lacking in forgiveness is slightly more passive.
Either way, all we are hurting is ourselves! Holding a grudge allows the fires to bun – whether an inferno or lightly smoldering coals – there is a heat that is putting purposeless energy into the world, always heat that can burn and damage.
A lack of forgiveness places most of the painful energy within the person who is withholding it. In most cases, the other is blissfully unaware. Without forgiveness, an attitude of hurt can be perpetuated for lengthy periods of time without resolution. Forgiveness does not require an apology from the other person.
This is craving of the ego. Coming to terms with the situation in the heart is the most joyful path to forgiving. If an apology is offered, think of it only as the icing on the cake because it is not required. The heart only passes on more love.
I realize just how vital this practice it. How can we possibly manifest anything wonderful into our live when we are busy grumbling against others and squabbling with them in our hearts? IMPOSSIBLE. How much wasted energy is this? We might fuss over the amount of food thrown out after dinner, the furniture that the dog has chewed up, or a favourite shirt that now has a large coffee stain on it and complain bitterly over the waste.
Waste is the overall key we are looking at with our unwillingness to forgive We are wasting all of the positive ideas and creative opportunities that may have found their way within us if the doorway was open instead of padlocked shut. In this situation, I see that I am the one locked in this prison cell – one that is of my own making.
I have had some personal issues as of late with forgiveness and it took some deep soul-searching to realize that I was the only one who was suffering! The people in question were unaware. After some time, I realized how ridiculous it was and then contemplated just how much energy I had wasted. NEVER AGAIN!
When we are unwilling to forgive, we shut off our energetic pathways. We do this to satisfy the ego who is convinced that it is right. Being right is imperative to the ego, but we need to remember that our true nature does not require it. As a divine being of love, it is time to let the ego fend for itself and realize that everyone wins in forgiveness, but the true winner is YOU. You have relinquished the negative energy, bested the ego, and continued to let your beautiful light shine.
Forgiveness is a process; we are on a beautiful journey together. With love, ANYTHING is possible.